1. Decide what you want to win at, life, money, raising kids, tennis, golf?

2. Make a plan for what winning really looks like. This is called goal setting and visioning. Lots available online.

3. Take the plan and show it to someone who has won. If you don't know someone, hire a coach or take a class.

4. Do little and big things towards it every day. Work hard, but have fun along the way. No one wins without a few bumps in the road, but if you plan, prepare and keep learning you will be able to achieve whatever you want.

Play your game and take inspired action. If you don't really want to win, you won't. And even if you don't win, remember, playing the game is almost as much fun as winning.